People who agree with the following statement don’t understand the nature of trust: “I trust until a person gives me a reason not to trust them”. Trust should be earned; trust should never be blindly given. It should develop over time after putting in work. In a new relationship there are so many variables to consider. The number one priority is getting to know a person. Ascertaining a person’s trustworthiness will be a part of this process. But don’t rush it. Trust involves reliability and consistency. These things can only be assessed over time.
In the early days, trust means believing in things seen. Thus a person must “show and prove”. Your job is to pay attention. Are a person’s words and actions congruent? Is there a consistent pattern of behavior that has been observed over time? Keep in mind that everyone is on their best behavior in the earlier days (months) of a relationship. Therefore, it may take several months before you see the true individual.
When you think about women, what comes to mind?
Now lets add sexuality to the mix. Female Sexuality. What does this bring to mind? Marginalized and discriminated against. The history of women in society. Today’s woman is still not held in esteem. She has been made to believe that she is inferior. Fighting for the right to vote; and making less money than her male counterparts, she is sexualized for the pleasures of others.
Subject to paradoxical requirements, today’s woman must be attractive to be successful. At the same time, gaining success as a consequence of her appearance makes a woman immoral, dangerous. She can’t win!