November 15, 2011 - Posted by DrMyrtleMeans

Let me start by saying, men are nothing like women. We often make the mistake of using what we think and feel to understand them. Wrong!  While men think and feel, they also act.

If you want to know what’s on the inside, pay attention to the things on the outside. I am not saying assume. It’s more like collecting information.  You can always test what you have observed by acting on it or asking questions. He will let you know if you are on the right track.

Men are consistent, even in their inconsistency. You have to learn his patterns and respect them. Or there will be hell to pay. That means, you will knock your head up against a wall trying to change him, and in the end, the wall remains, and your headache is bigger than it was before you started. For example, my husband has no concept of time. Therefore, he often over plans and is always late. I have learned that if I want him somewhere on time I have to keep him on track. I am the timekeeper, which he hates by the way.  Most importantly, I have learned that it is not personal. It has nothing to do with me; he is not disregarding my time or me. He is who he is and I have to respect that (working on it).

Men need to feel needed, but don’t like to be told what to do. When it comes to asking for what you need, timing is essential. Use common sense. Don’t ask during the game, when he is sleeping or when he is hungry.  You might just get your head bitten off.  Be prepared to ask more than once.  You know about the leaky faucet, chipped paint, dirty carpet, cluttered garage. It’s all on his list and he has the intention, but his time clock is not the same as yours.  In this case, patience is a virtue and a good handy man is priceless. Real men don’t mind if someone else fixes the leaky faucet, as long as he is not laying pipe (having sex with his woman). His desire to be needed is not solely about working around the house. He wants to be the person you count on when it matters. Rely on him.

A real man doesn’t hesitate, when he sees a woman who is worth having, he scoops her up right away. He is not afraid of commitment; he does not need to sow his wild oats. So, ladies don’t be scared when he tries to lock you down. No, he is not a crazy stalker. He is confident in his choice and is not willing to share (unlike women).  It maybe rooted in The Oedipal Conflict (the desire to defeat dad and posses mom) or the days of hunting and gathering when men had to battle for food to feed their families-every man for himself.

All men have an “it”: golf, video games, motorcycles, basketball, babes, sports cars, stocks…He is going to devote some time, energy, and money to it. Find a way to make room for his passion.  This just might help to keep the flame burning in other places (the bedroom). He needs an outlet-something to take him away from the everyday hustle. Being a good man is hard work. So when he has time to play, he goes hard.  His testosterone drives his lust for his “it”, do not stand between him and…

Last but not least, he needs a ride or die chick: someone who will be steadfast, on his side, his own personal cheerleader.  The very archenemy of the nag. He wants you to brag about big daddy.  Make him feel like he is the king of the jungle…Listen to his mighty ROAR!

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