February 6, 2012 - Posted by DrMyrtleMeans

Who wins the battle between the vaginal and clitoral orgasm? No one! It’s a draw. Here is what you need to know. The difference in the two orgasms is based on where stimulation takes place, and thus the origin of the orgasm itself. The idea that vaginal orgasms are superior to clitoral orgasms dates back to Sigmund Freud and his work on hysteria. Let me be clear, there is no such thing as an inferior orgasm.

Most women, somewhere between 70% and 80%, report that direct or indirect stimulation of the clitoris is necessary to achieve orgasm. Therefore, if you don’t have orgasms from intercourse alone you are in the majority. The only problem I can see is if you are not having orgasms at all. If this is the case, you need to take some time and get to know your body and its’ erogenous zones (hot spots).

There has been a long debate over the existence of the G-spot and its’ role in the vaginal orgasm. As recently stated in the Huffington Post, “Without a doubt, a discreet anatomic entity called the G-spot does not exist,” said Dr. Amichai Kilchevsky. This article goes on to say that women who reported vaginal orgasms had more nerve endings and thicker tissue in the (would be) G-spot area.

It is hypothesized that the area known as the G-spot is just an internal continuation of the clitoris. I don’t think the question is whether or not the G-spot exists. Every woman’s body is different. From the size and shape of her labia to the uniqueness of her clitoris. Why would the internal structure of the vagina be any different? The question is, do you know your own body and how it response sexually? If not you should take some time to explore it. This exploration should not be exclusive to the genitals. The body has many hot spots: earlobes, elbows…toes?

Keep in the mind that the largest erogenous zone for a woman is her brain. It can  serve as an obstacle to arousal or it can facilitate the process. Women who have a lot on their minds may find it difficult to get in the emotional and mental space to achieve the level of arousal necessary to bring about an orgasm. Therefore, it is important to explore all of the potential sources of excitation and interference. This may include using the assistance of erotic material such as books or movies. In addition, sex toys can provide a boost in levels of stimulation. Find yourself a quite place, set the mood, create an environment that allows you to get lost in your own pleasure.

If you are curious about the area known as the G-spot take some time to familiarize yourself with it. There are several toys on the market directed at stimulation of this area, which is located at the top internal wall of the vagina (about two inches in). The G-spot orgasm is known to be very intense and produce female ejaculation. The fluid produced is not urine and is thought to come from para-urethral glands (Skene’s gland).

Anyone seeking to understand the female orgasm should have basic knowledge of the sexual response cycle and the physiological and subjective changes associated with it. The stages are excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution. If a person is checking their sexual temperature the stages would be as follows: warm, hot, hottest, and cool down. I will save a more in depth discussion of the sexual response cycle for another blog.

3 Responses to “The Battle of the Orgasms: Vaginal (G-spot) vs. Clitoral”

  1. Varghese says:

    Not anymore, I truly want to believe him but research from what little I found was that a man gets a high from doing it himself. He has let himself go into me once after 6 months( I think it surprised him) I told him how much I felt like we were one. He also agreed how good it felt, the other times we go a very long time making love. Because of the tantra we can both stop the ejaculation process (I know that’s great). He can’t ejaculate in me or even when he is still hard or has to pull out because he loses his hardness it becomes limp. Of course i don’t feel like I’m sexually attracted to him. But I know I am by the way he touches and loves me, he uses the excuse of being tired or that maybe he’s not use to me I say bull crap! not to him though. The research also says, a man can get moody or not interested in having sex with their partner they are used to giving them pleasure only. I do every thing that turns him on we are both very open, he has taught me to love my body and not to be ashamed because of being used as a sex object all my life. He wants to be the best lover to me and he is, he tells me that no woman has made him so sexually attracted. We can talk about anything, except for his hand stimulating himself I asked him once for honesty and told him that it was okay because he was alone so many years, hey I said I understand I have my toy also. please help me to find out if this is truly a problem or not, They also say that a man will have trouble focusing if they masturbate too much he has all the symptoms but I have no answers to go with. I’m sorry this is so long but i love my relationship and my man of course but need help. I want this relationship to be full of trust, and to be a healthy one I have come to a point in my life where I have found someone who is compatible and enjoys life the way most people should. I want to be there no matter what and work on our relationship with our selves and on each other. Hes brought so much fullness into my life he is a bonus and I know he feels that way also.

  2. DrMyrtleMeans says:

    If I understand correctly, your mate masturbates frequently, however he does not often have sex with you. There can be many causes for this circumstance. I wonder if he has some type of sexual dysfunction that interferes with partnered sex. He may have performance anxiety which would not be present during solo sex. Sensate Focus is a exercise that allows a person to gradually introduce intercourse while remaining relaxed. If you google Sensate Focus you should find a guide that tells you how to complete the exercises. It is important to remember that in the beginning sex is not the objective. Exploration and comfort are the first objectives.

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    I don’t know where you’re getting your information, but great topic….


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