Archive for the ‘Relationships’ Category
As of today, I have been married for 13 years. I actually have two wedding anniversaries. The first is January 22, 2004. I was married to Martin Wesley Muhammad at the Justice of the Peace in a room full of strangers in a mass wedding. It was hilarious. I actually thought we might not be granted our marriage license because we caught the giggles in the middle of the ceremony. While our decision to get married early was motivated by the fact that I was pregnant, it was not a shotgun wedding. We were already engaged to be married. You might say we got married sooner for our first born child. Thus, she would not be born out of wedlock (and we would have more health insurance). Exactly four months later, I was married to the same man on May 22, 2004 in front of friends and family. If you would have told me then what I know now, I would not believe it. As a matter of fact, the content of this blog is a surprise for me and I’m writing it. Then I was strictly opposed to staying married for your children. My how times have changed.
This topic is personal for me because my youngest daughter has special needs. She has been diagnosed with Dyspraxia (delayed fine/gross motor movement and problems with speech production), Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), and Mixed Receptive/Expressive Speech Disorder. As a clinical psychologist I am clear on what all of this means. However, I wonder and sympathize with the parents that don’t have my background.