People who agree with the following statement don’t understand the nature of trust: “I trust until a person gives me a reason not to trust them”. Trust should be earned; trust should never be blindly given. It should develop over time after putting in work. In a new relationship there are so many variables to consider. The number one priority is getting to know a person. Ascertaining a person’s trustworthiness will be a part of this process. But don’t rush it. Trust involves reliability and consistency. These things can only be assessed over time.
In the early days, trust means believing in things seen. Thus a person must “show and prove”. Your job is to pay attention. Are a person’s words and actions congruent? Is there a consistent pattern of behavior that has been observed over time? Keep in mind that everyone is on their best behavior in the earlier days (months) of a relationship. Therefore, it may take several months before you see the true individual.
On Saturday April 23, 2016 Beyoncé released a visual album on HBO entitled Lemonade. On the surface it appears to be a documentary of sadness and hope associated with being betrayed by her husband Jay Z. However, a closer look reveals that she is singing about more then infidelity and recovery. She is addressing the historical and cultural plight of Black women. She further emphasizes the point by solely using African American girls and women in the video. Beyoncé eloquently weaves themes of oppression, sexism, abuse, devaluation, and colorism into this musical masterpiece.